Each one was trying to out do the other in what they each perceived was a "fine manner."
This is really a very vague area. Some preside nicely, while the majority I have known do so very badly. For instance my sissy's hasbeen/abuser presided by telling his family that he was jehovah and they better obey or else. Then he would rattle on about her having to be in subjection to his head-SHIT. Then he would ban all RATED - R movies. even in other people's houses. Once he came to my house and "Caught" my wife and her family in my livingroom watching Terminator 2. It had just come out on video and my brother-in-law who was an elder and regular pioneer had rented it. Sissy's hasbeen pitched a fit and sat down until I arrived while reading an ASLEEP magazine that was in Spanish, a language he didn't know how to read. Oh, and the mag was UPSIDE down......LOL He even said, "I'm going to tell the ELLL-DERRRZZ ! I WIIIIILL !!" Oh how theocratic! Oh what a wonderful display of integrity to the bible-ban on RATED-R movies!
This turd lived his life like this and all along beating my sissy. He broke her back, messed up her neck, drank to excess and did pot and meth. He was also going "out in service" with a gay brother and having sex with him. Service is right....Servicing each other. I would frequently put him on the spot when he would nag me about this or that transgression I had committed. "YOU WATCH RATED R MOVIES!!" One thing I have to give him credit for, he never watched any rated - r movies as long as I knew him. So I would just tell him how stupid he was. He can't and won't watch any rated - r movies but it's okay to beat your wife and cornhole your kids after you smoke methamphetamine?
I hope you reconsider going to that meeting.....